Blowjobs Part 1: Your Hands Are Your Best Friends

While mouths often get all the attention, hands play a huge role in creating comfort, control, and intense pleasure during oral sex. They're not just helpful—they're essential.

Blowjobs aren’t about starring in a porno or pushing yourself to the point of discomfort. Hands are like introducing a favorite toy—another way to make things better, more pleasurable, and more connected.

Think about it: being touched, stroked, or teased without hands would feel incomplete. The same goes for giving. Here are five ways hands can become the best ally during a blowjob.

My Personal Journey

In the early days, blowjobs weren’t enjoyable. That discomfort came from a lack of knowledge and confidence. Back then, resources were limited—no videos, no how-to guides. Over time, that changed through self-education, sex classes, and certification as a sex expert.

The turning point came when techniques were mastered, and a deeper understanding of partner pleasure developed. Confidence replaced hesitation.

With that growth, giving blowjobs became not only easier but something to look forward to. The more tools and techniques available, the more empowered and connected the experience becomes.

Tip #1: Big Cocks

This tip is all about managing size—especially when the mouth alone can’t handle it. A smaller mouth can make even an average-sized penis feel overwhelming, particularly if it’s thick.

When depth becomes difficult or uncomfortable, hands become the best solution. They allow for a partial oral experience while still stimulating the entire shaft. Use the mouth as far as it feels good, then rely on hand movements to do the rest.

Hands act as a barrier that prevents going too deep and triggering the gag reflex. They provide full-stroke sensation without requiring deep-throating, making the experience satisfying without discomfort.

Tip #2: Head Shovers

Some partners get a little too enthusiastic and try to push the head down during oral. While this might be unintentional, it can ruin the rhythm, cause choking, or even create discomfort.

Hands are the perfect tool to regain control.

One hand can guide the pace and depth while the other rests on the thigh or acts as a gentle counter-pressure. This keeps the rhythm flowing and avoids unexpected movements.

Staying in control ensures that everything stays pleasurable and connected without losing the sensual energy.

Tip #3: Taking Breaks

Oral sessions can be intense and sometimes long. Jaw fatigue is real. Instead of stopping and breaking the mood, hands keep things going while giving the mouth a rest.

Whether it’s taking a breather or slowing things down during teasing, hands allow for continued stimulation.

They make it easy to stay present and playful without losing the flow.

Pairing hand motions with eye contact, soft kisses elsewhere, or dirty talk keeps the connection strong while giving the jaw a break.

Tip #4: Explore With Your Hands

Hands aren’t just for the shaft. One can work the main action while the other explores—tracing the thighs, massaging the balls, or teasing the chest and stomach.

Touch builds tension and intimacy. It shows attentiveness and intention. When the mouth needs a quick pause, hands keep the experience going, maintaining rhythm and engagement.

Turning a focused act into a full-body experience elevates the moment from just physical pleasure to something deeply sensual.

Tip #5: Keep The Rhythm

Rhythm is key. So is variety. Hands allow for easy control of both. With hands, it's possible to speed up when needed, slow down for teasing, tighten the grip, or loosen it for sensitivity.

Add twists, strokes, or lube for texture changes. This kind of control keeps things from feeling repetitive and amps up the intensity.

Think of hands like a DJ—setting the pace, layering sensations, and creating a rhythm that keeps the experience unpredictable and exciting.