"Spring Cleaning," any time of the year, is all about fresh starts, and that doesn’t just apply to decluttering your home—it’s time to declutter your relationships, too!
There’s an old saying: “You can choose your friends, but you can’t choose your family.” While true, it doesn’t mean you have to keep people in your life who drain your energy or bring negativity.
This week, take a moment to reflect on the relationships in your life. Who uplifts you? Who weighs you down? It’s time to make some decisions.
Step 1: Identify Your Energy Drainers
vs. Your Loved Ones
A simple way to start is by making two lists:
Energy Drainers – These are people who leave you feeling exhausted, undervalued, or unhappy.
Loved Ones – The friends and family members who support, inspire, and bring joy to your life.
Spring Clean Your Relationships: Cutting Out Energy Drainers
Just because someone is family or a long-time friend doesn’t mean they have a free pass to treat you poorly. If a relationship is filled with negativity, manipulation, or selfishness, it’s time to step back.
Your happiness is in your hands. Letting go of toxic relationships isn’t selfish—it’s self-care.
Here’s how to take action:
Set Boundaries – If you’re not ready to completely cut ties, limit how often you engage with them.
Have an Honest Conversation – Express your feelings and give them a chance to improve the relationship.
Walk Away If Necessary – If they continue to drain your energy, it’s okay to let go.
Step 2: Show Appreciation for Your Loved Ones
It’s easy to take the good people in our lives for granted. Whether it’s a family member who helps you out or a friend who always has your back, now is the time to show them how much you care.
Simple ways to express appreciation:
Say Thank You – A heartfelt ‘thank you’ goes a long way.
Ask About Their Day – Show interest in their life.
Surprise Them – A small act of kindness can brighten their day.
Step 3: Reconnect & Strengthen Your Bonds
In today’s digital world, real connection often gets lost in quick texts and emails. When was the last time you truly connected with someone?
Make the Effort to Reach Out
Call Instead of Texting – A real conversation can mean so much more.
Write a Letter – A handwritten note feels extra special.
Plan a Meet-Up – Quality time together strengthens relationships.
Step 4: Make Time for In-Person Connection
We all claim to be "too busy," but maintaining relationships requires effort. Instead of waiting for the "perfect time," make the time.
Ideas for quality time together:
Go on an adventure – Plan a fun outing or short trip.
Have a cozy catch-up – Coffee dates, dinners, or a simple walk together can work wonders.
Try something new – Take a class, go to a show, or explore a new place together.
Step 5: Give Thoughtful Gifts
Everyone loves a thoughtful surprise! Giving a gift isn’t about spending money—it’s about showing someone you care.
Ideas for meaningful gifts:
A handwritten letter
A bouquet of fresh flowers
A book they’d love
A homemade treat
A small, thoughtful item that reminds you of them
Even a simple gesture can make someone’s day!