Energy naturally ebbs and flows—no one is meant to be on all the time. But if you’re running on empty more often than not, it’s time to take a serious look at your habits. Because here’s the truth: you can be in your 40s, 50s, and beyond and still feel vibrant, strong, and full of life.
This blog isn’t about being energized 24/7—that’s not realistic. It’s about maximizing your energy stores so you can feel your best, function at your highest level, and know when to rest and restore.
There’s no shortcut, no quick fix, and no single “hack” that will magically boost your energy. Everything works together. If you’re eating poorly, not drinking enough water, and never moving your body, getting good sleep alone won’t fix your energy levels. And if you work out daily but fuel yourself with junk food, you won’t see real, lasting results. There’s no magic bullet—it’s all about consistency.
Instead of overwhelming yourself by trying to change everything at once, start small. Add one new habit each week, see what works for you, and build from there. Energy isn’t one-size-fits-all. It looks different for everyone, so find what makes you feel your best—and make it a lifestyle.
Because at the end of the day, none of these tips will work unless you do them daily. Just like brushing your teeth to maintain hygiene or working out to stay fit, these habits need to be part of your everyday routine if you want lasting energy.
MIND | BODY | HOME | WORK | CONNECTIONS
My Story: How I Took Control of My Energy
In my late 30s, I started noticing shifts in my body—my energy levels dipped, my metabolism slowed, and I just didn’t feel as vibrant as I once did. But I refused to use age as an excuse. Yes, aging brings changes, but I knew that how I adapted to those changes was entirely up to me.
One of the first things I did was hire a trainer to help me adjust my fitness routine to better support my body’s evolving needs. I wasn’t just working out anymore—I was training with intention, focusing on hormonal balance, metabolism, and strength. Check out my blog post “4 Ways to Get Curves Naturally” to learn more about my fitness journey.
Then, when I turned 40, I made another big decision, I got off the pill. I wanted to restore my hormones naturally and ease into the next phase of my life with full control over my body. That’s when I started getting my bloodwork tested every three months to truly understand what was happening internally. I discovered:
Low testosterone
Low thyroid function
Vitamin B12 deficiency
Other vitamin and nutrient imbalances
This was a game-changer. Instead of guessing or relying on quick fixes, I gave my body exactly what it needed. Over time, I optimized my nutrition, workouts, and daily habits to support my hormones, metabolism, and overall well-being.
Now, at 47 years old, I have more energy than ever. I get more done in a day than I did in my 30s. But here’s the thing—energy isn’t about pushing through every single day. As women, our bodies go through weekly hormonal shifts, so some days we’re naturally more energized, while others require us to slow down.
The key isn’t to fight those low-energy days—it’s to work with them. I’ve learned to listen to my body, conserve energy when needed, and prioritize recovery just as much as productivity.
And most importantly, I didn’t do this overnight. It was all about baby steps. I changed one thing at a time and built habits that actually stuck. If you try to overhaul your life all at once, you’ll burn out. Instead, take it slow, be patient with yourself, and find what works for you.
Because trust me—you don’t have to settle for low energy just because you’re getting older. You can feel strong, vibrant, and full of life at any age. It’s all about taking control of your habits and making your energy a priority.
MIND: How to Energize Your Mental State
When we think about energy, we often focus on physical factors like diet and exercise. But your mind plays a massive role in how energized you feel. Chronic stress, mental fatigue, and emotional burnout can drain your energy just as quickly as poor nutrition or lack of movement. If you want to feel truly vibrant, you need to nourish your mind just as much as your body.
1. Reduce Stress – The Ultimate Energy Killer
Chronic stress isn’t just draining—it’s one of the biggest reasons people feel constantly exhausted. When you’re stressed, your body is in fight-or-flight mode, releasing cortisol and burning through energy reserves at a rapid rate.
Unchecked stress doesn’t just zap your energy; it can also: Mess with your hormones, disrupt your sleep, cause weight gain (especially around your belly) and affect your skin, hair, and overall appearance.
Find ways to release stress every single day. Whether it’s through:
Meditation – Even five minutes a day can lower stress levels.
Exercise – Movement helps your body burn off stress hormones.
Journaling – Writing down your thoughts can help clear your mind.
Laughter – Watch something funny, call a friend, or go to a comedy show.
2. Harness Your Energy by Tracking Your Cycle
Women’s energy levels fluctuate throughout the month based on hormonal changes. Instead of pushing yourself against your natural rhythm, learn to work with it.
For example:
Follicular Phase (Days 1-14) – This is when you feel most energetic, creative, and motivated. Plan big projects, workouts, and social events here.
Luteal & Menstrual Phase (Days 15-28) – Your energy starts to dip, and your body needs more rest. This is the time for self-care, deep work, and reflection.
Start tracking your cycle using an app like Flo or MyFlo. Plan your workouts, work schedule, and even social life around your energy peaks and dips.
3. Learn Your Natural Energy Patterns
Your body follows a natural rhythm every day—some hours you’re naturally productive, and others you need to rest. Instead of forcing yourself to be “on” all the time, track your energy peaks and dips. When you work with your body’s rhythm, you get more done with less effort.
How to track your energy:
Mornings – Your brain takes about 90 minutes to fully wake up after sleeping. Instead of jumping straight into work, use this time to ease into your day—stretch, hydrate, get some sunlight, or do a light activity. Once that 90-minute mark hits, your energy naturally peaks—this is your prime time for focus and productivity.
Afternoon Dips – Energy tends to drop after lunch. Instead of fighting it, take a short walk, do light tasks or take a nap to recharge.
Evening Boosts – Some people get a second wind in the evening—this is a great time for creativity or socializing.
Use the Rise Sleep app to track your daily energy fluctuations. I use it daily and it’s a game-changer!
4. Use Music to Influence Your Energy
Music is one of the easiest ways to shift your mood and energy levels instantly. Think about it; certain songs make you want to dance, others make you feel emotional, and some put you in a focused state.
How to use music for energy:
Morning Jazz – Start your day with smooth, uplifting tunes to help you wake up.
Workout Beats – Pump yourself up with high-energy music.
Evening Chill – Wind down with relaxing, calming melodies.
I personally start my day with jazzy music to set the mood, then switch to more energetic songs once I’ve fully woken up. At night, I transition to softer, calming sounds to prepare for sleep. Create three playlists: One for mornings, one for work focus, and one for evenings. Notice how it impacts your energy.
5. Heal Your Gut – Your “Second Brain”
Your gut health directly impacts your mood and energy levels. If your gut is inflamed or imbalanced, you’ll feel sluggish, bloated, and tired—no matter how well you eat.
Signs your gut may need help:
Constant bloating and digestive issues
Brain fog and low energy
Sugar cravings and mood swings
What to do:
Eat fiber-rich foods to support digestion.
Take a quality probiotic to promote gut health.
Reduce processed foods, alcohol, and excessive caffeine.
6. Boost Dopamine by Doing What You Love
Dopamine is your motivation and energy hormone. When it’s low, you feel bored, unmotivated, and sluggish. The quickest way to boost dopamine is by doing something you genuinely love.
Love shopping? Go on a quick “window shopping” stroll.
Love nature? Take a walk and pick flowers.
Love creativity? Paint, write, or create something.
What to do: Create a dopamine bucket list—write down 10 activities that energize you and commit to doing them more often. Schedule one fun activity a week to boost your dopamine. Over time, increase it to twice a week. It doesn’t have to be big—it just has to bring you joy.
7. Activate Your Vagus Nerve for Instant Calm
The vagus nerve controls how well your body relaxes and restores energy. If it’s overstimulated (from stress, anxiety, or overworking), you’ll feel exhausted all the time.
Ways to activate your vagus nerve:
Cold showers – A quick blast of cold water increases alertness.
Deep breathing – Slow, deep breaths calm your nervous system.
Humming or chanting – Sounds like humming activate the vagus nerve.
8. Prioritize Mental Health for Sustainable Energy
Your mental health has a huge impact on your energy levels. If you struggle with depression, anxiety, or migraines, your body is constantly fighting for balance—which takes a toll on your energy.
What to do:
Get professional support – Therapy, medication, or lifestyle changes can help.
Get daily sunlight – Vitamin D plays a huge role in mood and energy.
Reduce triggers – If allergies or migraines drain you, find ways to manage them.
I personally deal with daily migraines and allergies, but I’ve learned to keep them under control. Find what works for you so your mental health doesn’t drain your energy.
BODY: How to Physically Boost Your Energy
Your body is your greatest energy source, and how you treat it directly impacts how you feel. If you’re constantly exhausted, sluggish, or just not operating at your best, it’s time to assess what you’re doing—or not doing—for your physical well-being.
The truth is, you don’t just “run out” of energy—energy is something you create. And the way you move, eat, hydrate, and care for your body will determine whether you’re energized and thriving or drained and struggling.
1. Move Your Body – Every. Single. Day.
If you’re always tired but rarely moving, that’s part of the problem. Your body was made to move, and when you don’t, you create a cycle of fatigue. Movement increases blood circulation, oxygenates your cells, and releases endorphins—all of which wake you up naturally.
The reality: If you don’t move your body, you’ll feel more tired and even sore from lack of movement. The good news: You don’t need a two-hour gym session—just move.
Try this:
A brisk walk in the morning or afternoon
A strength training session a few times a week
Dancing in your living room (yes, it counts!)
Stretching or yoga to wake up your muscles
2. Fuel Your Body, Don’t Just Feed It
Food isn’t just about satisfying hunger—it’s your body’s fuel. If your energy is low, look at what you’re eating. Healthy food isn’t just your best medicine—it’s your best beauty treatment. When you eat well, your skin glows, your body thrives, and your energy soars.
Processed junk, excessive sugar, and constant snacking can send your blood sugar on a rollercoaster, leaving you feeling drained. Real, whole foods provide sustained energy and fuel your body properly.
The truth about food and energy:
Skipping meals = Low energy, sluggishness, and brain fog.
Eating processed food = A quick high, then an energy crash.
Eating protein and healthy fats = Sustained energy throughout the day.
I personally cut out fast and processed foods in my late 30s, because I realized they weren’t just making me feel sluggish—they were aging me. Once I made the switch, I started craving real, healthy foods, and now, if I eat processed junk, I feel gross.
3. Hydrate Like Your Life Depends on It (Because It Does)
Dehydration = instant exhaustion. If you’re drinking more coffee, soda, or alcohol than water, you’re setting yourself up for chronic fatigue.
How water fuels your energy:
Keeps your cells hydrated so they function properly
Aids digestion and prevents bloating
Supports brain function so you stay sharp
I personally drink only water throughout the day, plus one coconut water and my morning coffee (which I drink with extra water). I never drink tap water—only filtered or bottled water—because quality matters.
4. Get Outside Daily
Sunlight and fresh air are free energy boosters. Just 10 minutes outside can reset your mood, wake up your body, and improve your Vitamin D levels—which directly affects your energy.
Why Vitamin D matters:
Supports hormonal balance (low levels can cause fatigue)
Boosts mood and mental clarity
Strengthens bones and immunity
5. Stretch Daily to Release Tension
Your body holds tension, especially if you sit at a desk, drive a lot, or spend hours looking at screens. Over time, this tightness leads to stiffness, poor circulation, and low energy.
Common tight areas:
Hips (from sitting too much)
Lower back (from poor posture)
Neck & shoulders (from computer and phone use)
Solution? Stretch it out. Walking helps, but stretching gets deeper into those tight areas and releases built-up tension.
6. Check Your Bloodwork
If you’re doing everything right—eating well, exercising, sleeping, and hydrating—but still feel exhausted, it’s time to check your bloodwork.
Every few months I stay on top of your health by getting my bloodwork done. If something is off, I fix it quickly before it drains me any further or becomes a bigger issue.
Some key tests to check, but make sure your doctor does a full panel:
Iron levels – Low iron causes fatigue and weakness.
Vitamin B12 – Essential for energy and brain function.
Thyroid function – An underactive thyroid can make you feel sluggish.
Hormone balance – Imbalances can drastically affect your energy.
7. Don’t Just Take Random Vitamins
We often assume that because something is labeled a vitamin or natural supplement, it must be good for us. But not all vitamins are beneficial for everyone, and in some cases, they could actually be making you feel worse. Your energy, mood, and even chronic symptoms could be linked to the supplements you’re taking—without you realizing it.
The problem with blindly taking vitamins:
Too much of a good thing: Some vitamins, like B6 or iron, can be toxic in high doses and lead to nerve issues, nausea, or fatigue.
Headaches & unwanted side effects: Certain vitamins, like excess Vitamin D, B12, or magnesium, can trigger headaches, dizziness, or digestive issues without you realizing they’re the cause.
Poor absorption: If your body doesn’t absorb a supplement properly, you could be flushing money down the drain or even throwing off your body's natural balance.
Interactions with medications: Some vitamins interfere with medications, making them less effective or even dangerous.
What to do instead:
Get your bloodwork tested to identify any actual deficiencies. Only supplement what your body truly needs—your doctor or a qualified specialist can help you determine what’s necessary based on your results.
Prioritize real food first—you may not need as many supplements if your diet is nutrient-dense.
Pay attention to how you feel—if you start a new supplement take one at a time and notice any headaches, bloating, fatigue, or brain fog before continuing it or adding any new ones.
8. Eat More Protein for Energy
If you want stable, long-lasting energy, increasing your protein intake is one of the best things you can do. Unlike carbs, which can cause energy spikes and crashes, protein provides steady fuel throughout the day. Start your day with 30g of protein at breakfast and notice how much more energized and satisfied you feel throughout the day!
Why Protein is Essential for Energy:
Boosts metabolism – Helps your body burn calories more efficiently.
Stabilizes blood sugar – Prevents the energy crashes that come from too many carbs.
Supports brain function – Keeps you focused and mentally sharp.
Repairs and builds muscle – Helps you stay strong and resilient.
HOME: Create an Environment That Fuels Your Energy
Your home should be a place of restoration and renewal, not an energy drain. The space you live in—from your bedroom to the products you use daily—can either support your well-being or unknowingly zap your energy.
If you constantly feel tired at home, it’s time to look at your sleep quality, air quality, light exposure, and the hidden toxins in your environment. Small changes can make a huge difference in how refreshed and energized you feel every day.
1. Sleep Like You Mean It
Sleep is non-negotiable when it comes to energy. If you’re getting fewer than seven to nine hours of quality sleep, no amount of coffee, exercise, or healthy eating will make up for it.
Ways to optimize your sleep environment:
Get off your phone at night to avoid blue light, which disrupts melatonin production and makes it harder to fall asleep.
Make your bedroom a sleep sanctuary by keeping it dark, cool, and quiet. Use blackout curtains, a white noise machine, or an eye mask.
Stick to a consistent bedtime and wake-up time to regulate your body’s internal clock.
2. Wake Up the Right Way
It takes about 90 minutes for your brain to fully wake up. If you feel groggy in the morning, it doesn’t necessarily mean you’re not a morning person— your body just needs time to transition from sleep to full alertness.
Instead of immediately grabbing coffee, try this routine:
Open your curtains or step outside to get natural light exposure.
Listen to calming music to ease into the day.
Take a shower to stimulate circulation.
Stretch or go for a walk to wake up your muscles naturally.
Many people feel a natural energy boost around 90 minutes after waking up. I personally wait before drinking coffee because sometimes I realize I don’t even need it. On days when I do, I drink it later in the morning or early afternoon to support my energy rather than relying on it immediately.
3. Mouth Tape – The Secret to Waking Up Energized
Mouth taping at night might sound strange, but it can dramatically improve sleep quality and energy levels.
Mouth breathing at night reduces oxygen absorption, increases snoring, and contributes to dry mouth, which can leave you feeling dehydrated and exhausted in the morning.
Taping your mouth while sleeping encourages nasal breathing, which improves oxygen intake, promotes deeper sleep, and prevents morning grogginess and fatigue.
If you often wake up feeling drained despite getting enough hours of sleep, try using hypoallergenic mouth tape for a few nights and see how much more rested you feel.
4. Remove Energy Drainers from Your Home
Your home environment could be unknowingly draining your energy. Small annoyances— background noise, lack of natural light, or clutter— can contribute to stress and fatigue. Making your home a space that supports relaxation and focus can significantly improve your overall energy.
Common household energy drainers:
Constant background noise from electronics, appliances, or even buzzing lights can subtly stress the nervous system.
A lack of sunlight can disrupt your circadian rhythm and leave you feeling sluggish.
Clutter can create mental overload, making it harder to relax and recharge.
Ways to fix it:
Minimize unnecessary noise by using soundproof curtains or a white noise machine.
Increase natural light by opening windows, switching to daylight bulbs, or using a light therapy lamp.
Declutter your space to create a more peaceful environment.
5. Detox Your Home from Hidden Toxins
Many everyday household items contain chemicals and toxins that can contribute to allergies, migraines, hormonal imbalances, and fatigue. You may not feel an immediate impact, but over time, they can take a toll on your energy and overall health.
Common household toxins:
Plastic food containers can leach chemicals like BPA that disrupt hormones.
Tap water can contain heavy metals and other contaminants.
Harsh cleaning products can trigger allergies, headaches, or respiratory issues.
Artificially scented candles and air fresheners often contain harmful chemicals that contribute to brain fog and fatigue.
Healthier alternatives:
Switch to glass or stainless steel water bottles and food containers.
Use natural cleaning products like vinegar, baking soda, and essential oils.
Replace synthetic air fresheners with essential oil diffusers or beeswax candles.
Drink filtered or bottled water to reduce exposure to contaminants.
6. Check for Carbon Monoxide Leaks
If you’ve been feeling fatigued, foggy, or unwell for months and can’t pinpoint the cause, a slow carbon monoxide leak could be the issue. A small gas leak may go unnoticed for months but can have a serious impact on your health.
I personally experienced symptoms for six months without realizing my home had a slow gas leak. My alarm never went off because the leak was minor, but I was still exposed enough to suffer from constant fatigue, headaches, and brain fog.
Ways to prevent this:
Schedule regular maintenance on gas appliances, such as heaters and stoves.
Install a high-quality carbon monoxide detector as alarms aren't triggered with small leaks.
If you’ve been feeling unusually exhausted for an extended period, consider having your gas lines inspected.
7. Rethink Your Beauty Products
The products you apply to your skin are absorbed into your body, and many contain artificial ingredients that could be causing issues without you realizing it. Pay attention to how your body reacts to the products you use. If you’re experiencing unexplained headaches, breakouts, or skin sensitivity, your beauty products could be contributing to the issue.
Hidden problems in beauty products:
Skincare and makeup can contain artificial fragrances and chemicals that trigger allergies, breakouts, or irritation.
Lotions and body creams may include preservatives that contribute to eczema, rashes, or inflammation.
Hair products with sulfates and harsh chemicals can irritate the scalp and cause thinning hair.
Healthier alternatives:
Choose clean, non-toxic beauty brands that avoid artificial dyes, parabens, and fragrances.
Opt for fragrance-free lotions and skincare if you have allergies or sensitive skin.
Use sulfate-free and natural hair products to avoid scalp irritation.
WORK: Stay Energized + Focused Throughout the Day
Work Smarter, Not Harder! Your work should challenge and fulfill you, not drain your energy to the point of exhaustion. Taking care of your workspace, giving yourself breaks, and reassessing whether your career aligns with your passions can all make a difference in how you feel throughout the workday.
By making intentional choices, you can create a work life that supports your energy rather than depleting it. Work takes up a significant portion of our lives, and whether it fuels or drains your energy depends on multiple factors—your environment, daily habits, and most importantly, how much you enjoy what you do. If you constantly feel exhausted at work, it’s time to reassess what’s pulling your energy down and what changes you can make to stay productive without burning out.
1. Reduce Eye Strain from Screens
Staring at a computer screen all day is one of the biggest energy zappers. Digital eye strain is real, and it doesn’t just affect your vision—it can also cause headaches, brain fog, and overall fatigue.
Ways to reduce eye strain and protect your energy:
Follow the 20-20-20 rule: Every 20 minutes, look at something 20 feet away for at least 20 seconds.
Adjust your screen brightness and contrast to reduce glare.
Use blue light filters or glasses to minimize strain on your eyes.
Blink more often to prevent dryness and fatigue.
Take short breaks every hour to reset your focus and give your eyes a rest.
Try stepping outside for at least 10 minutes midday to give your eyes a real break from screens and artificial light. Sunlight helps reset your energy and focus naturally.
2. Work Can Drain Your Energy—Unless You Love It
Your job can either energize you or completely exhaust you. The biggest factor? Whether you actually enjoy what you do.
When you love your work, you’re more likely to feel motivated, engaged, and full of energy. But if you’re stuck in a job you dislike, it can feel like a constant drain on your mental and physical well-being.
Signs your work is draining your energy:
You feel exhausted no matter how much sleep you get.
You dread Mondays and feel drained before the day even starts.
You struggle to focus or feel mentally checked out.
You carry stress and tension in your body, even outside of work hours.
If this sounds like you, it might be time to rethink your career path. Life is too short to spend most of your waking hours doing something that depletes you. While quitting may not be an immediate option, you can start making small changes—setting better boundaries, reducing workload stress, or actively planning a transition to something better.
Ask yourself if your job gives you energy or takes it away. If it’s draining you, what small steps can you take to shift toward something more fulfilling?
3. Remove Energy Drainers from Your Workspace
Your work environment affects your energy just as much as your home. If your desk or office is cluttered, noisy, or poorly lit, it can contribute to low energy and lack of focus. Making small adjustments to your workspace can help you feel more focused, clear-headed, and energized throughout the day.
Common workplace energy drainers:
Too much clutter on your desk can make it harder to concentrate.
Poor lighting, especially artificial fluorescent lights, can cause eye strain and fatigue.
Constant noise from coworkers, office chatter, or even notifications on your phone can be mentally exhausting.
Sitting in one position for too long can make you feel stiff and sluggish.
Ways to fix it:
Declutter your desk to create a calmer, more focused environment.
Improve lighting by using a desk lamp with warm light or sitting near a window.
Use noise-canceling headphones or play soft background music to minimize distractions.
Move throughout the day, whether that’s stretching at your desk, standing for calls, or taking short walks.
4. Take Breaks and Plan Holidays
No matter how much you love your work, your brain and body need breaks. Taking time off isn’t just about relaxation—it’s about resetting your energy and avoiding burnout.
Many people push through exhaustion, believing they’ll be more productive if they keep working, but the opposite is true. Without breaks, creativity, focus, and motivation decline, leading to lower-quality work and even more fatigue.
Daily breaks are essential. Even stepping away from your desk for five to ten minutes can give your brain a reset and boost energy levels.
Taking holidays is just as important. Traveling, stepping away from routine, and experiencing new environments allow your mind to recharge. If you constantly feel like you “can’t afford” to take time off, that’s a sign you need it more than ever. Prioritize rest so you can return to work feeling renewed rather than depleted.
CONNECTIONS: Protecting Your Energy in Relationships
The people in your life can either uplift you or drain you. Your relationships—whether with family, friends, romantic partners or yourself —play a huge role in your emotional and physical energy. When your connections are positive, they fuel you, inspire you, and make life richer. But when they are toxic, draining, or one-sided, they can leave you feeling exhausted, anxious, and depleted.
Just like we remove energy drainers from our home and work environment, we need to do the same in our relationships. Not all connections are healthy, and it’s important to assess whether the people around you are adding to or taking away from your energy.
Not all relationships are meant to last forever. As you grow, it’s natural for some connections to fade while others become stronger. The key is to surround yourself with people who uplift and energize you while setting boundaries with those who drain your spirit.
By making intentional choices about the relationships in your life, you can create a circle of support, love, and positivity that fuels your energy rather than depleting it.
Identify Relationship Energy Drainers
Some relationships take more than they give, leaving you emotionally exhausted. It’s important to recognize the signs of energy-draining people so you can set boundaries and protect your well-being. If a relationship consistently leaves you feeling exhausted instead of supported, it’s time to reassess how much space you give that person in your life.
Signs of an energy-draining relationship:
You feel tired, emotionally drained, or anxious after interacting with them.
The relationship feels one-sided—you give, but they take.
They constantly complain, criticize, or bring negativity into your life.
They drain your confidence or make you second-guess yourself.
They don’t respect your boundaries or personal space.
They expect you to always be available but rarely offer the same in return.
Set Boundaries with Draining Relationships
You don’t always have to cut people out completely, but setting clear boundaries is essential to protect your energy. Healthy relationships are about mutual respect—if someone can’t respect your boundaries, that’s a sign they don’t value your energy.
Ways to set boundaries:
Limit your time with people who drain you. It’s okay to step back from certain relationships.
Learn to say no without guilt. Your energy is precious, and you don’t have to overextend yourself.
Stop engaging in drama or negativity. If someone constantly complains or brings toxicity into your life, redirect the conversation or distance yourself.
Protect your personal space. Not every text, call, or request needs an immediate response.
Surround Yourself with Energy Givers
Just as some people drain you, others fill you up. The right relationships will inspire, motivate, and energize you, making you feel supported and valued. Prioritize these relationships and spend more time with people who truly add value to your life.
Signs of an energy-giving relationship:
You feel happy, uplifted, and energized after spending time with them.
They genuinely support and celebrate you without jealousy or competition.
The relationship is balanced and reciprocal—both of you give and receive.
They respect your time, space, and emotions without demanding too much.
They make you feel safe, loved, and appreciated for who you are.
Reassess Family Relationships
Family relationships can be complex—just because someone is related to you doesn’t mean they have unlimited access to your energy. If certain family members are toxic, manipulative, or overly demanding, it’s okay to set boundaries with them or let them go. Family should be a source of support and love, not a source of constant stress and emotional exhaustion. If certain relationships cause more harm than good, distance yourself as needed.
Things to remember about family dynamics:
You are not responsible for fixing unhealthy family members.
It’s okay to say no to toxic family obligations that drain you.
Boundaries apply to family just as much as friends and coworkers.
You can love someone and still limit your exposure to their negativity.
Balance Your Romantic Relationships
Romantic relationships should enhance your life, not drain it. If your partner constantly makes you feel tired, frustrated, or emotionally exhausted, the relationship may need some reassessment. If your relationship is draining you, communicate your needs, set boundaries, and reflect on whether it’s a truly healthy partnership.
A healthy relationship should:
Support your growth and goals instead of holding you back.
Be emotionally balanced—both partners should contribute equally.
Respect your energy, space, and time without unnecessary demands.
Feel safe, loving, and emotionally fulfilling.
Take Time for Yourself
Sometimes, the biggest energy drain comes from not having enough time alone. Constant social obligations, family demands, or relationship pressures can leave you feeling stretched too thin. It’s okay to step back from social interactions and prioritize your own well-being.
Make time for:
Quiet moments alone to reset your energy.
Personal hobbies and passions that bring you joy.
Self-care rituals that allow you to recharge mentally and emotionally.
Solo time without guilt—you don’t have to be available 24/7.